Quarter-Life Crisis
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Just before my twenty-fifth birthday year, I broke.
My relationship was crumbling.
My career path was up in the air.
My friendships were far and few in-between.
& I looked at myself with such negativity that it really broke me.
Growing up, we are guided, sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally, towards a life path that we would be pretty good at.
The problem is if other people guided us towards that path, is it what we really wanted?
When I was 25 years old, I didn’t notice that other people around me, the same ages as me, were having the same identity crisis as I was because it showed up differently for them.
Who am I supposed to be? Who am I now?
Those are the questions that we were internally asking ourselves but coming up short with answers.
Identity crises happen multiple times during our life-span, the most common is a mid-life crisis, but it’s not the only one.
When puberty hits during our pre-teenage and teenage years, we have no clue who we are, what is happening and why we feel the way we do.
Women who start birth control, especially at a young age, have flying hormones and go through the same crisis of not understanding who they are, especially because hormones often change how we react to situations.
There is a mini-crisis from 19 to 20 because we often feel like the world will make sense once we reach the twenty mark, but we find out that was a lie.
However, after all of that, my favourite crisis has been my quarter-life crisis because I changed EVERYTHING.
- I started going to therapy
- I started looking into alternative medications
- I started to understand that I was peppered with anxiety
- I started a whole new career path
- I applied to Grad School
- I started standing up for myself
- I put a value on who I am and what I can do
- I changed my life
& a year later, I am a completely different person for the better.
I tear up as I write this because I am proud of who I have become.
A quarter-life crisis is a big stepping stone in life because it is the time that we figure out if we want to stay on the same path that everybody around us guided us towards, or if we want to go offroading and create a whole new life for ourselves.
There is no right decision to make because regardless of your decision, you start to build yourself back up and understand who you are, who you are supposed to be and what you are doing here.
A quarter-life crisis leads to beautiful lessons.
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